Category: Motivation

Posted on: August 21, 2021 by
Overwhelm is a type of emotional paralysis where you feel as though you’re unable to cope with or handle your circumstances. You might be feeling overwhelmed because you: ✅ Have very high standards and expectations of yourself; perhaps expectations of perfection, which are very difficult to live up to. ✅ Are  [Read more...]
Posted on: July 13, 2021 by
“NOTHING tastes as good as being SLIM feels.” That’s something I say to clients all the time. I use it in my email signature, my voice mail recording, and in my weekly pod-cast sign-offs. If only saying that to yourself every day as a sort-of mantra would be enough to get  [Read more...]
Posted on: July 3, 2021 by
In my line of work, I often have the “busy vs productive” conversation with clients. They’re 𝑎𝑑𝑑𝑖𝑐𝑡𝑒𝑑 to “busy.” They 𝑛𝑒𝑒𝑑 “busy.” They 𝑐𝑟𝑎𝑣𝑒 “busy.” Because “busy” takes the focus off the work that needs to be done on and for themselves. Too many folks wear “busy” like a great badge  [Read more...]
Posted on: June 26, 2021 by
In my article, Stretch(pants) Your Way to Fat(ter), I write about one of the realities that have sprung up over the decades as Americans have continued to get fatter — the false sense of reality one gets from stretch fabric – you know, yoga pants, leggings, drawstring waists and the like. They allow you  [Read more...]
Posted on: June 20, 2021 by
Bronnie Ware, an Australian, spent several years working in palliative care caring for patients in the last 12 weeks of their lives. She recorded their dying epiphanies in a blog called “Inspiration and Chai,” which gathered so much attention that she put her observations into a book, “The Top Five Regrets of the Dying,”  [Read more...]
Posted on: June 10, 2021 by
As all clients, past and present, know, I, and my mom before me, have always used 4 words to succinctly sum up the wide-ranging services we provide and why we’ve been so successful for almost three decades: Discipline, Guidance, Structure and Accountability. But what exactly is A𝐜𝐜𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐭𝐚𝐛𝐢𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐲? The easiest way to explain  [Read more...]
Posted on: May 20, 2021 by
Yoga pants. Leggings. Sweat pants. Elastic waistbands. Easy. Comfortable. Super-stretchy. And a false sense of reality. Yoga pants and leggings, in particular, are designed to stretch something ridiculous, like 1000%, and yet somehow hold you in, “hide” the real you. They’re tummy control. Hip control. Thigh  [Read more...]
Posted on: May 13, 2021 by
“Each time you discipline yourself to persist in the face of distractions, diversions, and disappointments, you feel better about yourself.” ~ Brian Tracy Excellence at a craft or skill, outstanding performance in sports or the arts, or attaining sobriety over any addiction, cannot be reached without it. Eating right and  [Read more...]
Posted on: May 6, 2021 by
One of the words I use all the time in my weight loss coaching is MOMENTUM. Building a head of steam. Getting the wind behind your sales. Being on a roll. And you can’t possibly do that—with anything you’re trying to achieve—without understanding and putting into practice another all-important word: CONSISTENCY. Consistency  [Read more...]
Posted on: April 22, 2021 by
Getting frustrated at a lack of progress – or what people perceive is a lack of progress – is why so many quit trying to lose weight. Actually, when you think it’s time to give up . . . that’s the time to think again . . . and to think about  [Read more...]
Posted on: April 15, 2021 by
“Expectations are premeditated resentments.” That slogan apparently originated in 12-step programs, and I believe it contains some useful, practical information for all of us about the psychology of expectations. First, merely expecting something to happen will not make it happen. If you believe your expectations alone will bring you what you  [Read more...]
Posted on: March 4, 2021 by
Want to know why 8 out of 10 new businesses fail within the first 18 months?     Because the owners didn’t have a strategic plan to achieve success.     They may have had a brilliant idea, a great product or service, they may have been be very smart. But hoping and wishing  [Read more...]
Posted on: February 25, 2021 by
Right up there with “I’m not that fat, I’m big boned” is the other falsehood that “My meds me fat.” God, I hear that all the time or someone will write that on the initial questionnaire they submit: “I was skinny my whole life and started birth control last year and gained 50  [Read more...]
Posted on: February 11, 2021 by
Self-efficacy is a person’s belief that any action they take will have an effect on the outcome. It is not self-confidence, nor a belief that one is competent to do something, although it may involve both. Self-efficacy is our inner expectation that what we do will effect the results we want. If  [Read more...]
Posted on: February 4, 2021 by
There are so many reasons why you decide to lose weight, but when and why you do decide depends on your mind, not your body. After all, “decide” is a mental function, is it not? . . . and the start (and the continuation) of a dietary/lifestyle change is a mental process. There are  [Read more...]
Posted on: January 28, 2021 by
An issue I encounter with many folks I meet in the office—and, dare I say, most—is not how absolutely disorganized they are but how adamant they are that they are organized to a fault in every aspect of their lives EXCEPT FOR (wait for it . . . ) their weight, eating lifestyle and  [Read more...]
Posted on: December 26, 2020 by
Are you someone who has lost and regained weight multiple times, and is looking to make this time, this new year, the final and true push for a permanent change? The first step is to realize this is a long-term, forever thing, not a short-term “get weight off as quickly as I  [Read more...]
Posted on: December 19, 2020 by
Yes, it’s December and we’re two short weeks to the new year. But with just 3 turns of the calendar pages, it’ll be March . . . and March 20 is spring! . . . and the following weekend is Passover and Palm Sunday. . . . and the next Sunday  [Read more...]
Posted on: December 12, 2020 by
Tied with “I Don’t Know” in the #1 spot for excuses from weight loss clients is the old standby, “I don’t have time.” Sound familiar?   In his article, Do You Lie To Yourself About “Not Enough Time?”, Robert Bacall gets right to the heart of the matter on the true meaning of “I don’t have  [Read more...]
Posted on: December 1, 2020 by
  In weight loss, as in reaching many other goals, the key is motivation. Those who are most motivated are those who succeed. And you need to keep your level of motivation high not just at the beginning of your weight loss program, when you have decided to lose weight, but also throughout the program.  [Read more...]
Posted on: November 28, 2020 by
  I was recently asked the question, “Why is getting in the right frame of mind the key to achieving weight loss results?” Now, obviously, by starting that question with the word “why” instead of “do you think,” or “is,” this individual was (a) telling me what he thought to be a fact; and (b)  [Read more...]
Posted on: November 7, 2020 by
One statement I hear too often from people is “I don’t have time for that” . . . in regards to certain tasks—a.k.a. work—that must be done in order to work with me to lose weight, things like planning ahead, preparing in advance, using portion control, and so much more. How often  [Read more...]
Posted on: October 17, 2020 by
When you think about starting a diet, you know you need to do a handful of things: Cut out junk food Stop “picking” Stop going out to eat as often as you do Stop ordering in as often as you do Do more grocery shopping Cook your meals at home Do prep  [Read more...]
Posted on: October 10, 2020 by
I speak with so many people who swear how healthy they eat and they can’t understand why they gained weight, why they can’t lose weight, and why they are always so unsuccessful at dieting. And almost every single time, after doing some digging, they come to realize that THEY are their own biggest  [Read more...]
Posted on: September 19, 2020 by
Three words I hear an awful lot, daily — let’s call them some of the buzz words of weight loss — are: “I don’t know.” Some examples. Before the client gets on the scale.     Me: So, how’d you do over the weekend?     Client: I don’t know. When the scale shows a weight  [Read more...]
Posted on: September 5, 2020 by
If you’re a business owner, you know that we business owners keep all kinds of records so that we can look back at various collected stats or data for evaluation: How did we do? What do we want to do differently? What worked that we want to continue? What didn’t that we want to stop  [Read more...]
Posted on: August 22, 2020 by
The term “healthy obesity” has gained some traction over the last several years, and I want to put that oxymoron to rest. When I hear it, I always ask, “What does that mean? . . . that you haven’t had a stroke or heart attack yet?” . . . that the ticking time bomb hasn’t  [Read more...]
Posted on: August 8, 2020 by
I meet so many new clients who, after years of trying every new short-term diet that comes out, have attitudes of defeat and beliefs that they’ve talked themselves into as to why they can’t lose weight. Some weight loss beliefs are so far removed from reality, and I have seen many overweight  [Read more...]
Posted on: July 4, 2020 by
For those who don’t want to work very hard, who don’t want to change their thinking, well . . . there are lots of options. The marketplace is overloaded with diet books, each proclaiming to be “the one” or “the best” or “the fastest” or “the cheapest” for permanent weight loss. Or,  [Read more...]
Posted on: June 20, 2020 by
When you’re trying to lose or control your weight, there are those who recommend recording what you eat in a day, either throughout the day as you go along or at the end of the day.  I don’t. “Recording” isn’t the same thing as “planning.” Recording means having to stop  [Read more...]
Posted on: May 30, 2020 by
If you speak to anyone who has overcome a really bad habit or addiction – drugs, alcohol, gambling, for example – they’d tell how on Day 1 of walking into an NA, AA, or GA meeting they felt they’d NEVER be free of their disease, how they were so deep in it, that  [Read more...]
Posted on: May 9, 2020 by
One of the things I hear from new clients at our first visit together—when I’m probing as to what brought them to me besides, of couse, the obvious fact that they are overweight—is that they feel left out. Oh, they may have spouses and kids and friends and all, but they know they  [Read more...]
Posted on: April 11, 2020 by
While you’re actively losing weight, it’s exciting to see the numbers on the scale drop and to see or hear other people’s reactions as you get smaller. With time, however, the slimmer you is no longer the “new” you. The compliments taper off and some people in your life don’t even know you  [Read more...]
Posted on: January 4, 2020 by
If you want to be a successful “loser” (of weight, that is!), you have to prepare for the hardship of being slim. You might ask yourself, “What in the world could possibly be hard about being slim?!” Believe it: The world, and especially those in your personal and professional circles, treats you very  [Read more...]
Posted on: December 21, 2019 by
A most discouraging aspect of weight loss is the inevitable slip . . . and everyone has them. For some, the occasional slip brings about an all-out binge — followed by guilt, disgust, self-loathing, a sense of powerlessness and a feeling of “what’s the use?” The biggest difference between successful “losers” and  [Read more...]
Posted on: December 7, 2019 by
Over the years, in keeping in touch with many clients who have achieved and were maintaining their goal weights, I’ve come to realize a pattern: Much more had taken place in their lives than just waking up one morning a year or two or longer ago and having an epiphany that THAT was  [Read more...]
Posted on: October 19, 2019 by
Too often, I hear from clients: “I don’t want to buy new clothes until I lose weight?” or “I’m waiting to get slim before I spend money on clothes.” If this is you, I’ll tell you the same thing I tell them: STOP! It doesn’t work. Usually, the first instinct may  [Read more...]
Posted on: October 12, 2019 by
When a client says to me, “It’s not working . . .” — trying to suggest that eating normal, regular, everyday foods from each of the food groups every day, using portion control, planning ahead and packing meals and snacks throughout the day, is the reason they’re not losing weight — what they’re  [Read more...]
Posted on: October 5, 2019 by
Many people I meet and take on as clients do suffer from a negative, defeatist attitude,  “the fattitude,” as I call it. Having a defeatist attitude means that you give up before you’ve even started, like the runner who is so convinced he’s going to lose the race that he doesn’t even  [Read more...]
Posted on: September 14, 2019 by
Are you spending time hoping or are you busy doing? I see people daily who say, “I hope I can do it . . . this time.” These are folks who for years have done one quick-trick-diet-shtick after another. I always ask, “How has hoping worked out for you thus  [Read more...]
Posted on: September 7, 2019 by
Not long ago, a LinkedIn connection posted a good, thought-provoking question:   “Should you care more about solving your buyers’ problems than they do?”   Now, obviously, in my business, the “buyer” is my prospects (those who need my services) and clients (those who have engaged my services).   The reason her question  [Read more...]
Posted on: July 20, 2019 by
Is a𝐧 𝐞𝐱𝐜𝐮𝐬𝐞 𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐧𝐝𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐬𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐛𝐞𝐭𝐰𝐞𝐞𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐧𝐞𝐱𝐭 𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐩 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐧𝐞𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐭𝐚𝐤𝐞? If you really want to do something, you’ll find a way. If you don’t, you’ll find an excuse. That may be tough to accept, but it’s the truth. If you’re over-fat, stop making excuses for  [Read more...]
Posted on: July 6, 2019 by
If you travel, you plan your trip. If you are getting married, you plan your wedding. If you throw a party, you plan the event. You wouldn’t dream of doing any of those things without prior planning. For your business and your health, you must do the same.   [Read more...]
Posted on: June 22, 2019 by
When we are trying to manifest any idea, reach any goal, achieve any measure of success, there will be setbacks, failures and disappointments. **Newsflash** — Setbacks, failures and disappointments are good for us! They are the best education we can get because they teach us to adapt. Giving up is  [Read more...]
Posted on: June 15, 2019 by
When it comes to achieving a goal, we’ve all heard the expressions about having to take baby steps instead of giant leaps, about having to learn how to walk before we can run, etc. And that’s true . . . always. Only in the movies do people switch lifestyles overnight, suddenly cutting  [Read more...]
Posted on: June 8, 2019 by
Be honest: Would you be friends with someone who constantly told you how fat you looked? Probably not for very long. Would you tolerate a friend who constantly berates you, who never misses an opportunity to tell you you’re hopeless and weak and that you’ll never lose weight? I doubt it.  [Read more...]
Posted on: March 2, 2019 by
Momentum. It’s an important word, one that I use a lot with my clients . . . I mean, a real lot. The dictionary definition of the word is: strength or force gained by motion or by a series of events In his #LinkedIn article, How to Know if it’s Working,  [Read more...]
Posted on: February 16, 2019 by
You’ve heard over and over again how a food diary is the most powerful proven aid for dieters, that those who keep a food diary lose more weight. And that’s true. But, food diaries are also a very important tool for those who have lost weight and need to keep it off, as well  [Read more...]
Posted on: February 2, 2019 by
“Why is getting in the right frame of mind the key to achieving weight loss results?”    By starting that question with the word “why,” the person who asked it was conveying two things to me: That he thought it to be a fact; and That he assumed I agreed with him.   [Read more...]
Posted on: January 19, 2019 by
I received this testimonial from a client last week. David is in his mid-to-late 50’s. The part about how I take a great personal interest in clients’ lives is the biggest compliment . . . and what sets my program apart. The weigh-in takes a minute. Checking a client’s food plan for the  [Read more...]
Posted on: December 29, 2018 by
Last year at this time, were you overweight or obese? Did a healthy goal weight seem unattainable, and did a year from then seem so far away? Well, here we are, folks. Another year has come and gone. Look how quickly it passed.  If you want to be a successful “loser” in  [Read more...]
Posted on: September 4, 2018 by
Many of my clients are career professionals and small business owners. There is a common problem among them: They put themselves last. They work long hours and eat mindlessly all day; or, they let their work distract them and purposely go long hours without eating anything at all. Those who were overweight,  [Read more...]
Posted on: August 14, 2018 by
Ask anyone who is extremely successful — at anything — and 9 out of 10 of them will no doubt tell you they don’t have that much more talent or intelligence than anyone else. What every single one of them do have or did have, however, is a million times more desire to succeed  [Read more...]
Posted on: June 8, 2018 by
So many people say they don’t have the discipline to make big changes in their lives and, as you can imagine, I meet new clients all the time who tell me they don’t have the “will”power to stick to new lifestyle changes. From hands-on experience with clients over 20 years, what I’ve learned  [Read more...]
Posted on: April 14, 2018 by
Are you someone who, like millions of other people, suffers with a daily internal struggle with weight and eating? Have you tried all the diets—the packages, the powders, the liquids, the pills, the grapefruits, the celebrity-sponsored miracle plans, the hypnosis, the balls behind the ear, the no carbs, and on and on . .  [Read more...]
Posted on: April 1, 2018 by
Being overweight is not just an external (appearance) issue. Being overweight is an internal (health) issue. Every overweight person I meet who doesn’t have any diagnosed medical issues and isn’t taking any prescribed medications thinks they’re “healthy.” They’re not. Excess visceral fat is not the foundation of or the companion to good health. Can you be  [Read more...]
Posted on: March 4, 2018 by
Do you need to lose weight but dread the thought of how far you have to go to accomplish your goals? Clients have told me that when they think about all they’ll have to do in order to reach lose weight, it paralyzes then. It’s why they procrastinate in getting started and  [Read more...]
Posted on: January 12, 2018 by
We know for a fact that generating a daily food plan (or, weekly plan) is crucial for healthy and consistent weight loss. As the saying goes, if you fail to plan, you plan to fail. You have to know, in advance, what your intentions are for the next day (or more). Based on  [Read more...]
Posted on: January 1, 2018 by
When you cheat, it almost always means you’ve done something on the spur of the moment. You didn’t think it through. You didn’t weigh the pros, the cons. You didn’t consider how you would respond to the ramifications of your actions. And, most often, the aftermath of a “cheat” results in a person getting  [Read more...]
Posted on: December 24, 2017 by
Whether it’s starting a weight loss program or starting to incorporate exercise or personal training into your life, one of the hardest parts about sticking to either endeavor, is the dread that comes from thinking about how far you have to go to accomplish your goals.Actually, let’s face it, it’s quite normal that when  [Read more...]
Posted on: October 1, 2017 by
One of the most discouraging aspects of weight loss is the inevitable slips . . . and everyone has them. For some people, the occasional slip brings about an all-out binge . . . followed by guilt, disgust, self-loathing, a sense of powerlessness and a feeling of “what’s the use?” Sound familiar?  [Read more...]
Posted on: May 14, 2017 by
Josh Hoffman, a great blogger and international digital marketing strategist, recently wrote a wonderful article, The 3 Questions My Therapist Asks Himself Every Day. As I read it, I thought to myself how simple, yet thought-provoking, those three questions were and that all of us should ask ourselves each day.   In particular, I thought of  [Read more...]
Posted on: April 6, 2017 by
I often shake my head when new clients recite a long list of diets they’ve tried in the past, ranging from the ridiculous to the downright dangerous. My response is always the same:I tell them I can teach them everything I know, but I can’t go home with them, I can’t shop for their  [Read more...]
Posted on: March 24, 2017 by
You’ve followed your diet faithfully, watching every morsel that passes your lips . . . and perhaps you’ve also been out there exercising every day. So why, with all the good intent, determination and motivation, now that you’re starting to see the physical results of all that hard work, have you come up against the  [Read more...]
Posted on: February 4, 2017 by
Too many people think weight is a food problem. It’s not. Weight is also not a physical problem. The fact is that our bodies will react to what our minds are thinking. Weight gain (or loss) has more to do with what’s going on between our ears than anything  [Read more...]
Posted on: January 17, 2017 by
In my blog, Just Say “No” To Food Pushers, I wrote about the scourge of those who cannot take “No” for answer. It’s time to do so again. It seems some people relish (no pun intended) that role, and often it’s because they’re miserable in their own bodies. The holiday season, Thanksgiving through  [Read more...]
Posted on: January 10, 2017 by
Although written in 2015, I recently came upon an article by Carson Veady, The 10 Keys to Exceeding Expectations and Achieving Results. You can read it for the full narrative/context to each of these points, but each his points assures success to whatever sights we set for ourselves, including of course our weight loss goals.  [Read more...]
Posted on: December 3, 2016 by
There’s a word that my mother never allowed my sister and I to use at home when we were growing up, and that my husband and I didn’t allow our daughter to use either.  No, it’s not the F word.  I’m OK with that, depending on how it’s used.  The word I’m talking about  [Read more...]
Posted on: November 27, 2016 by
  I’ve met so many people over the years who have fallen into a pattern of dieting failure: One diet after another, several in a year, multiple times, and each time focused solely on their weight, almost never on their health. Obsessively focused on a daily number on a scale instead of a cumulative improvement to  [Read more...]
Posted on: October 23, 2016 by
I recently wrote about how “I don’t know” is tied with “I don’t have time” for the #1 spot on the hit parade of excuses heard regularly from weight loss clients. The #2 spot? Well, that’s definitely “I can’t.” OMG . . . I hate that freakin’ word can’t. It’s not in my vocabulary.   Here’s the short  [Read more...]
Posted on: October 16, 2016 by
Aurorasa Sima is an Emotional Intelligence Trainer, business and executive coach who conducts sales training sessions, workshops, webinars and other events. In a blog, Do You Want to Search or Find, she mentioned how oftentimes after a training session someone will come up to her and say, “I knew all of that” and her response  [Read more...]
Posted on: October 11, 2016 by
I recently read a very good post on the professional social network, LinkedIn, by Mareo McCracken, This is Why You Are Sabotaging Relationships (+8 Actionable Ideas to Build Incredible Ones). It was on the subject of sabotaging relationships when it comes to success (or failure) in business. It stood out for me because of two words: SABOTAGING and RELATIONSHIPS.    [Read more...]
Posted on: July 4, 2016 by
There’s lots of Rationalizations, Excuses and Denials—a.k.a. bullshit—in weight loss. I hear it daily. My favorite, which I’ve already written about it, is “I’m not really that overweight; I’m big boned.” I always get a chuckle out of that one. My second favorite is a tie between “No matter what I do, I can’t seem to lose weight”  [Read more...]
Posted on: June 26, 2016 by
Pusher: “Here, try this.” Addict: “No, thanks.” Pusher: “Are you sure?” Addict: “Yes, thank you.” Pusher: “C’mon, you’re doing great on your diet; you can have one little piece.” Addict: “No, really; I’m sure. Thanks.”   Pusher: “Aren’t you going to have any dessert?” Addict: “No, dinner was enough; I’m full, thanks.” Pusher: “My cheesecake not  [Read more...]
Posted on: April 19, 2016 by
In his excellent article, Declutter Your Desk to Declutter Your Mind, Brett Berhoff wrote about the clutter-mind connection.  In my line of work, I can say without question that physical clutter and chaos is directly linked to excessive weight.   Clutter and excessive weight make a perfect match for each other because they  [Read more...]
Posted on: February 7, 2016 by
  I read a wonderful, informative article by George Armes, Over 50? 60? All’s (definitely) Not Lost! that provides one great piece of advice after another for older adults to get past the stereotypical younger recruiter across the desk to either get back into the job market or switch jobs. One of Mr. Armes’  [Read more...]
Posted on: February 1, 2016 by
  It would come as no surprise that one of the questions I am often asked is, “What are some of the motivational tips you provide to clients to stay motivated and focused in order to achieve their weight loss goals?”  Well, of course, there are many, but the best way I can answer  [Read more...]