Category: Motivation

Fat by Choice

Recently, a question was posed to me on Quora: Do you believe most fat people are fat by choice or is it something not everyone can control? The short answer: Yes. There are, of course, significant causes of obesity, such as those with mental health issues who use food to self-medicate  [Read more...]

Momentum Predicts Your Success

Momentum. It’s an important word, one that I use a lot with my clients . . . I mean, a real lot. The dictionary definition of the word is: strength or force gained by motion or by a series of events In his #LinkedIn article, How to Know if it’s Working,  [Read more...]

When You Fail to Plan, You Plan to Fail

You’ve heard over and over again how a food diary is the most powerful proven aid for dieters, that those who keep a food diary lose more weight. And that’s true. But, food diaries are also a very important tool for those who have lost weight and need to keep it off, as well  [Read more...]

The God-of-The-Right-Frame-of-Mind

“Why is getting in the right frame of mind the key to achieving weight loss results?” By starting that question with the word “why,” the person who asked it was conveying two things to me: That he thought it to be a fact; and That he assumed I agreed with him.   [Read more...]

Do You Suffer From Shiny Object Syndrome?

I read a great article in 2017 entitledHey Sales Reps: Stop Chasing Shiny Objects and Get to Work!by Larry Levine, sales guru, trainer and coach. Anyway, his article was about how sales organizations focus too much on the “shiny new thing” — “social selling” (encouraging sales reps to establish their own brands on social  [Read more...]

Out With the Old, In With the . . . 𝙊𝙡𝙙?

Last year at this time, were you overweight or obese? Did a healthy goal weight seem unattainable, and did a year from then seem so far away? Well, here we are, folks. Another year has come and gone. Look how quickly it passed. If you want to be a successful “loser” in  [Read more...]

I’m Happy Being Fat

Over the last four weeks, in each of my weekly blogs, I’ve been addressing the common thoughts of those who fall prey to, as relates to weight loss, Given Up and Given In to Hopelessness. “This is who I am.” “Guess I’ll be fat forever.” “It’s in my genes.” “I’m tired of dieting.”  [Read more...]

I’m Tired of Dieting

In my last three blogs, I wrote about the five common thoughts of those who fall prey to, as relates to weight loss, Given Up and Given In to Hopelessness. “This is who I am.” “Guess I’ll be fat forever.” “It’s in my genes.” “I’m tired of dieting.” “I’m happy being fat.” These  [Read more...]

It’s In My Genes

In my last two blogs, I wrote about the five common thoughts of those who fall prey to what I call, when it comes to weight loss, Given Up and Given In to Hopelessness. “This is who I am.” “Guess I’ll be fat forever.” “It’s in my genes.” “I’m tired of dieting.” “I’m  [Read more...]

Guess I’ll Be Fat Forever

In another recent blog, I wrote about how there are five common thoughts of those who fall prey to what I call the Given Up and Given In to Hopelessness of weight loss. They share them all at once or come to them one at a time. “This is who I am.” “Guess  [Read more...]

This is Who I Am

There are five common thoughts of those who fall prey to the Given Up and Given In to Hopelessness of weight loss. They share them all at once or come to them one at a time. “This is who I am.” “Guess I’ll be fat forever.” “It’s in my genes.” “I’m tired  [Read more...]

Taking Care of Business

Many of my clients are career professionals and small business owners. There is a common problem among them: They put themselves last. They work long hours and eat mindlessly all day; or, they let their work distract them and purposely go long hours without eating anything at all. Those who were overweight,  [Read more...]

Winning the Dieting Mental Game

Ask anyone who is extremely successful — at anything — and 9 out of 10 of them will no doubt tell you they don’t have that much more talent or intelligence than anyone else. What every single one of them do have or did have, however, is a million times more desire to succeed  [Read more...]

“Don’t Be Angry With Me”

So often, especially on a Monday morning, or if I haven’t seen a client for longer than usual, upon entering my office and before they get on the scale, they will pronounce, “You’re going to be angry with me” or “Don’t be angry with me.” As you can surmise, and as I instantly know  [Read more...]

Too Embarrassed to Go to the Gym?

Healthy living comes naturally for some people; for others, not so much. For those who are overweight or obese — large enough that it’s difficult or even painful to do what thinner people can do easily (high intensity interval training, hot yoga, crossfit, jogging, to name a few) —it’s even tougher to get started.  [Read more...]

Dealing with Non-Dieting Loved Ones

Half the battle of weight loss is trying to stay on track, and it doesn’t help if your loved ones aren’t being as supportive as they should be. Does your spouse bring you a huge box of chocolates every Valentine’s Day? Does your mother-in-law shove home-baked cookies and cakes or other goodies  [Read more...]

Are You a Failure at Weight Loss?

“There’s no such thing as failure; there are only results.” This gem is attributed to Tony Robbins, one of the world’s most famous motivational speakers, and is used ad nauseum by business coaches, commencement speakers, and so many others. So, in other words, whenever we attempt to do something and don’t succeed  [Read more...]

“Can I Do It Right Now?”

Do you need to lose weight but dread the thought of how far you have to go to accomplish your goals? Clients have told me that when they think about all they’ll have to do in order to reach lose weight, it paralyzes then. It’s why they procrastinate in getting started and  [Read more...]

With Friends Like These . . . Dieting With the Enemy

Want to bring out the worst in people?Lose weight.Whether it’s 10 pounds or a ton, just watch and see how you’ll be showered with so much fattening food—by people who claim to love you!Why is that?When dieters fall off the wagon, they’re always shocked to think that someone else may have had a hand  [Read more...]

You CAN Indulge AND Stay on Track

When you cheat, it almost always means you’ve done something on the spur of the moment. You didn’t think it through. You didn’t weigh the pros, the cons. You didn’t consider how you would respond to the ramifications of your actions. And, most often, the aftermath of a “cheat” results in a person getting  [Read more...]

Want to Quit? Ask Yourself One Question.

Whether it’s starting a weight loss program or starting to incorporate exercise or personal training into your life, one of the hardest parts about sticking to either endeavor, is the dread that comes from thinking about how far you have to go to accomplish your goals.Actually, let’s face it, it’s quite normal that when  [Read more...]

Do You Suffer From Shiny Object Syndrome? Here’s a Prescription.

As happens quite often, I recently read a great article, Hey Sales Reps: Stop Chasing Shiny Objects and Get to Work! by Larry Levine, sales guru, trainer and coach. Anyway, his article was about how sales organizations are focusing too much on the “shiny new thing” — “social selling” (encouraging sales reps to establish  [Read more...]

There Are No Shortcuts to Long Term Goals

There once was a young Japanese man who wanted to become a Zen master. So he sought out a famous Zen teacher and asked him how long it would take to reach his goal. “If you study really hard and give me your complete concentration and attention twenty-four hours a day, it will  [Read more...]

Falling Off the Weight Loss Wagon

One of the most discouraging aspects of weight loss is the inevitable slips . . . and everyone has them. For some people, the occasional slip brings about an all-out binge . . . followed by guilt, disgust, self-loathing, a sense of powerlessness and a feeling of “what’s the use?” Sound familiar?  [Read more...]

Are You Playing the Blame Game?

“People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I don’t believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and, if they can’t find them, make them.” ~George Bernard Shaw I see clients every day who  [Read more...]

Dear Clients: It’s Not Me . . . Its You!

There are many excuses that clients use to try and convince themselves that their weight gain is not their fault, that a bad eating day is not their fault, that a weight stall is not their fault, that they’re not losing weight fast enough is not their fault,that boredom with what they’re eating is  [Read more...]

The Path to Weight Loss Is One Step at a Time

Josh Hoffman, a great blogger and international digital marketing strategist, recently wrote a wonderful article, The 3 Questions My Therapist Asks Himself Every Day.As I read it, I thought to myself how simple, yet thought-provoking, those threequestions were and that all of us should ask ourselves each day. In particular, I thought of  [Read more...]

Jumping off the Weight Loss Plateau

You’ve followed your diet faithfully, watching every morsel that passes your lips . . . and perhaps you’ve also been out there exercising every day.So why, with all the good intent, determination and motivation, now that you’re starting to see the physical results of all that hard work, have you come up against the  [Read more...]

How You Speak to Yourself Changes Everything

Although written in 2015, I recently came upon an article by Carson Veady, The 10 Keys to Exceeding Expectations and Achieving Results.You can read it for the full narrative/context to each of these points, but each his points assures success to whatever sights we set for ourselves, including of course our weight loss goals.  [Read more...]

The Weight Gain Plan or
How to Get Fat in Five Easy Steps

I know it’s strange to find a “how to” article focusing on adding fat to your body. You might say that we already know how to do that—since 2/3 of Americans are overweight and 1/3 are clinically obese. You might say we’ve already mastered this topic! I want to challenge that assumption. I think  [Read more...]

Mind Your Own Business in 2017

Anotheryear has come to a close. In our personal lives, this is the time when we reflect on the year that has just ended: The things we did, the places we went, the people we met; the good things we’ll always remember, the bad things we hope to forget; the things we are  [Read more...]

Teaching an Old Dog a New Trick

There’s a word that my mother never allowed my sister and I to use at home when we were growing up, and that my husband and I didn’t allow our daughter to use either. No, it’s not the F word. I’m OK with that, depending on how it’s used. The word I’m talking about  [Read more...]

The Scale Doesn’t Tell the Whole Story

I’ve met so many people over the years who have fallen into a pattern of dieting failure: One diet after another, several in a year, multiple times, and each time focused solely on their weight, almost never on their health.Obsessively focused on a daily number on a scale instead of a cumulative improvement to  [Read more...]

Can’t?! If You’re Potty Trained, You CAN!

I recently wrote about how “I don’t know” is tied with “I don’t have time” for the #1 spot on the hit parade of excuses heard regularly from weight loss clients.The #2 spot?Well, that’s definitely “I can’t.”OMG . . . I hate that freakin’ word can’t.It’s not in my vocabulary. Here’s the short  [Read more...]

Tick, Tock . . . It’s Time to Make Time to Lose Weight

Tied with “I Don’t Know”in the #1 spot for excuses from weight loss clients is the old standby, “I don’t have time.” Sound familiar? I recently read a fabulous article by Robert Bacall, Do You Lie To Yourself About “Not Enough Time?”,which gets right to the heart of the matteron the true meaning  [Read more...]

The Slim Person You Seek Is Inside You

Aurorasa Sima is an Emotional Intelligence Trainer, business and executive coach who conducts sales training sessions, workshops, webinars and other events.In a blog, Do You Want to Search or Find, she mentioned how oftentimes after a training session someone will come up to her and say, “I knew all of that” and her response  [Read more...]

The “I Don’t Knows” of Weight Loss

Three words I hear an awful lot, daily — let’s call them some of the buzz words of weight loss — are: “I don’t know.” Some examples. Before the client gets on the scale. Me: So, how’d you do over the weekend? Client: I don’t know. When the scale shows  [Read more...]

Struggling With Your Weight Loss? Start Writing!

If you’re a business owner, you know that we business owners keep all kinds of records so that we can look back at various collected stats or data for evaluation:How did we do? What do we want to do differently? What worked that we want to continue? What didn’t that we want to stop  [Read more...]

The R.E.D. of Weight Loss

There’s lots ofRationalizations,ExcusesandDenial—a.k.a.bullshit—in weight loss. I hear it daily. My favorite, which I’ve already written about it, is“I’m not really that overweight; I’m big boned.”I always get a chuckle out of that one. My second favorite is a tie between “No matter what I do, I can’t seem to lose weight”  [Read more...]

Just Say NO to Food Pushers

Pusher: “Here, try this.” Addict: “No, thanks.” Pusher: “Are you sure?” Addict: “Yes, thank you.” Pusher: “C’mon, you’re doing great on your diet; you can haveonelittle piece.” Addict: “No, really; I’m sure. Thanks.” Pusher: “Aren’t you going to have any dessert?” Addict: “No, dinner was enough; I’m full, thanks.” Pusher: “My cheesecake not  [Read more...]

Applying Some Horse Sense to Weight Loss

My daughter, Sabrina, has been horseback riding since she was 7; she’s now 20 and a college junior.A couple years ago, she had a spill off a horse at school, and was off the mount for a few months. When home on break, I decided to hang around the barn one day to watch  [Read more...]

Can Clutter and Chaos Make You Fat?

In his excellent article, Declutter Your Desk to Declutter Your Mind, Brett Berhoff wrote about the clutter-mind connection. In my line of work, I can say without question that physical clutter and chaos is directly linked to excessive weight. Clutter and excessive weight make a perfect match for each other because they  [Read more...]

Are Your Friends Making You Fat?

People are connected, and so their health is connected, said authors of their research findings a decade ago in The New England Journal of Medicine. It was the first time that prestigious journal published a study of how social networks affect health and, more specifically, how social networks play a powerful role in  [Read more...]

Job Hunting Over-50? Over-60? Over-Weight?

I read a wonderful, informative article by George Armes, Over 50? 60? All’s (definitely) Not Lost! that provides one great piece of advice after another for older adults to get past the stereotypical younger recruiter across the desk to either get back into the job market or switch jobs. One of Mr. Armes’  [Read more...]

The “8-Step Program” for Weight Loss Goals

I was recently asked this question, “Why is getting in the right frame of mind the key to achieving weight loss results?” Now, obviously, by starting that question with the word “why” instead of “do you think,” or “is,” this individual was (a) telling me what he thought to be a fact; and (b)  [Read more...]

Weight Loss Motivation: WHY, HOW and WHEN

It would come as no surprise that one of the questions I am often asked is, “What are some of the motivational tips you provide to clients to stay motivated and focused in order to achieve their weight loss goals?” Well, of course, there are many, but the best way I can answer this  [Read more...]

Motivation: A 12-Tip Program

In weight loss, as in reaching many other goals, the key is motivation. Those who are most motivated are those who succeed. And you need to keep your level of motivation high not just at the beginning of your weight loss program, when you have decided to lose weight, but also throughout the program.  [Read more...]

How Divorced Parents Make Fat Kids

An article by psychotherapist and marriage counselor, Mel Schwartz, For the Sake of the Children, really struck a nerve with me. Of course, it speaks about “working” at a marriage; that’s what we commit to on our wedding day. When all working fails, however, the whole notion of “staying together for the sake  [Read more...]

New Year, New You? or . . . Different Year, Same Sh*t?

Over the years, in keeping in touch with many clients who have achieved and were maintaining their goal weights, I’ve come to realize a pattern: Much more had taken place in their lives than just waking up one morning a year or two or longer ago and having an epiphany that THAT was the  [Read more...]

The Three-Legged Stool Rule

When it comes to weight loss, and also to weight maintenance, there are 3 things that we are in control of 99% of the time: the WHAT, the HOW MUCH and the WHEN we eat. During your normal, every day routines, and barring any extraordinary circumstances of course, you must plan your  [Read more...]

Cheating = Bad. Planning to Indulge = Good.

With perhaps the one exception of “cheating” death, the word “cheat” can just never be used in a positive way. Cheating on your spouse isn’t good. Cheating on your business partner isn’t good. Cheating on your taxes isn’t good. Cheating a customer by padding your bill isn’t good. Cheating on an exam isn’t  [Read more...]