Category: Motivation

Posted on: July 20, 2019 by
Is a𝐧 𝐞𝐱𝐜𝐮𝐬𝐞 𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐧𝐝𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐬𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐛𝐞𝐭𝐰𝐞𝐞𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐧𝐞𝐱𝐭 𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐩 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐧𝐞𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐭𝐚𝐤𝐞? If you really want to do something, you’ll find a way. If you don’t, you’ll find an excuse. That may be tough to accept, but it’s the truth. If you’re over-fat, stop making excuses for  [Read more...]
Posted on: July 13, 2019 by
A question posed to me on Quora not too long ago: 𝗗𝗼 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗯𝗲𝗹𝗶𝗲𝘃𝗲 𝗺𝗼𝘀𝘁 𝗳𝗮𝘁 𝗽𝗲𝗼𝗽𝗹𝗲 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗳𝗮𝘁 𝗯𝘆 𝗰𝗵𝗼𝗶𝗰𝗲 𝗼𝗿 𝗶𝘀 𝗶𝘁 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆𝗼𝗻𝗲 𝗰𝗮𝗻 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝘁𝗿𝗼𝗹? The short answer: Yes. There are, of course, significant causes of obesity, such as those with mental health issues who use  [Read more...]
Posted on: July 6, 2019 by
If you travel, you plan your trip. If you are getting married, you plan your wedding. If you throw a party, you plan the event. You wouldn’t dream of doing any of those things without prior planning. For your business and your health, you must do the same.   [Read more...]
Posted on: June 22, 2019 by
When we are trying to manifest any idea, reach any goal, achieve any measure of success, there will be setbacks, failures and disappointments. **Newsflash** — Setbacks, failures and disappointments are good for us! They are the best education we can get because they teach us to adapt. Giving up is  [Read more...]
Posted on: June 15, 2019 by
When it comes to achieving a goal, we’ve all heard the expressions about having to take baby steps instead of giant leaps, about having to learn how to walk before we can run, etc. And that’s true . . . always. Only in the movies do people switch lifestyles overnight, suddenly cutting  [Read more...]
Posted on: March 16, 2019 by
Recently, a question was posed to me on Quora: Do you believe most fat people are fat by choice or is it something not everyone can control? The short answer: Yes. There are, of course, significant causes of obesity, such as those with mental health issues who use food to self-medicate  [Read more...]
Posted on: March 2, 2019 by
Momentum. It’s an important word, one that I use a lot with my clients . . . I mean, a real lot. The dictionary definition of the word is: strength or force gained by motion or by a series of events In his #LinkedIn article, How to Know if it’s Working,  [Read more...]
Posted on: February 16, 2019 by
You’ve heard over and over again how a food diary is the most powerful proven aid for dieters, that those who keep a food diary lose more weight. And that’s true. But, food diaries are also a very important tool for those who have lost weight and need to keep it off, as well  [Read more...]
Posted on: February 2, 2019 by
“Why is getting in the right frame of mind the key to achieving weight loss results?” By starting that question with the word “why,” the person who asked it was conveying two things to me: That he thought it to be a fact; and That he assumed I agreed with him.   [Read more...]
Posted on: January 5, 2019 by
I read a great article in 2017 entitledHey Sales Reps: Stop Chasing Shiny Objects and Get to Work!by Larry Levine, sales guru, trainer and coach. Anyway, his article was about how sales organizations focus too much on the “shiny new thing” — “social selling” (encouraging sales reps to establish their own brands on social  [Read more...]
Posted on: December 29, 2018 by
Last year at this time, were you overweight or obese? Did a healthy goal weight seem unattainable, and did a year from then seem so far away? Well, here we are, folks. Another year has come and gone. Look how quickly it passed. If you want to be a successful “loser” in  [Read more...]
Posted on: October 9, 2018 by
Over the last four weeks, in each of my weekly blogs, I’ve been addressing the common thoughts of those who fall prey to, as relates to weight loss, Given Up and Given In to Hopelessness. “This is who I am.” “Guess I’ll be fat forever.” “It’s in my genes.” “I’m tired of dieting.”  [Read more...]
Posted on: October 2, 2018 by
In my last three blogs, I wrote about the five common thoughts of those who fall prey to, as relates to weight loss, Given Up and Given In to Hopelessness. “This is who I am.” “Guess I’ll be fat forever.” “It’s in my genes.” “I’m tired of dieting.” “I’m happy being fat.” These  [Read more...]
Posted on: September 25, 2018 by
In my last two blogs, I wrote about the five common thoughts of those who fall prey to what I call, when it comes to weight loss, Given Up and Given In to Hopelessness. “This is who I am.” “Guess I’ll be fat forever.” “It’s in my genes.” “I’m tired of dieting.” “I’m  [Read more...]
Posted on: September 18, 2018 by
In another recent blog, I wrote about how there are five common thoughts of those who fall prey to what I call the Given Up and Given In to Hopelessness of weight loss. They share them all at once or come to them one at a time. “This is who I am.” “Guess  [Read more...]
Posted on: September 11, 2018 by
There are five common thoughts of those who fall prey to the Given Up and Given In to Hopelessness of weight loss. They share them all at once or come to them one at a time. “This is who I am.” “Guess I’ll be fat forever.” “It’s in my genes.” “I’m tired  [Read more...]
Posted on: September 4, 2018 by
Many of my clients are career professionals and small business owners. There is a common problem among them: They put themselves last. They work long hours and eat mindlessly all day; or, they let their work distract them and purposely go long hours without eating anything at all. Those who were overweight,  [Read more...]
Posted on: August 14, 2018 by
Ask anyone who is extremely successful — at anything — and 9 out of 10 of them will no doubt tell you they don’t have that much more talent or intelligence than anyone else. What every single one of them do have or did have, however, is a million times more desire to succeed  [Read more...]
Posted on: August 7, 2018 by
So often, especially on a Monday morning, or if I haven’t seen a client for longer than usual, upon entering my office and before they get on the scale, they will pronounce, “You’re going to be angry with me” or “Don’t be angry with me.” As you can surmise, and as I instantly know  [Read more...]
Posted on: July 31, 2018 by
Healthy living comes naturally for some people; for others, not so much. For those who are overweight or obese — large enough that it’s difficult or even painful to do what thinner people can do easily (high intensity interval training, hot yoga, crossfit, jogging, to name a few) —it’s even tougher to get started.  [Read more...]
Posted on: June 29, 2018 by
Half the battle of weight loss is trying to stay on track, and it doesn’t help if your loved ones aren’t being as supportive as they should be. 📌 Does your spouse bring you a huge box of chocolates every Valentine’s Day? 📌 Does your mother-in-law shove home-baked goodies in your face  [Read more...]
Posted on: May 4, 2018 by
“There’s no such thing as failure; there are only results.” This gem is attributed to Tony Robbins, one of the world’s most famous motivational speakers, and is used ad nauseum by business coaches, commencement speakers, and so many others. So, in other words, whenever we attempt to do something and don’t succeed  [Read more...]
Posted on: March 4, 2018 by
Do you need to lose weight but dread the thought of how far you have to go to accomplish your goals? Clients have told me that when they think about all they’ll have to do in order to reach lose weight, it paralyzes then. It’s why they procrastinate in getting started and  [Read more...]
Posted on: January 19, 2018 by
Want to bring out the worst in people?Lose weight.Whether it’s 10 pounds or a ton, just watch and see how you’ll be showered with so much fattening food—by people who claim to love you!Why is that?When dieters fall off the wagon, they’re always shocked to think that someone else may have had a hand  [Read more...]
Posted on: January 1, 2018 by
When you cheat, it almost always means you’ve done something on the spur of the moment. You didn’t think it through. You didn’t weigh the pros, the cons. You didn’t consider how you would respond to the ramifications of your actions. And, most often, the aftermath of a “cheat” results in a person getting  [Read more...]
Posted on: December 24, 2017 by
Whether it’s starting a weight loss program or starting to incorporate exercise or personal training into your life, one of the hardest parts about sticking to either endeavor, is the dread that comes from thinking about how far you have to go to accomplish your goals.Actually, let’s face it, it’s quite normal that when  [Read more...]
Posted on: November 26, 2017 by
As happens quite often, I recently read a great article, Hey Sales Reps: Stop Chasing Shiny Objects and Get to Work! by Larry Levine, sales guru, trainer and coach. Anyway, his article was about how sales organizations are focusing too much on the “shiny new thing” — “social selling” (encouraging sales reps to establish  [Read more...]
Posted on: November 18, 2017 by
There once was a young Japanese man who wanted to become a Zen master. So he sought out a famous Zen teacher and asked him how long it would take to reach his goal. “If you study really hard and give me your complete concentration and attention twenty-four hours a day, it will  [Read more...]
Posted on: October 1, 2017 by
One of the most discouraging aspects of weight loss is the inevitable slips . . . and everyone has them. For some people, the occasional slip brings about an all-out binge . . . followed by guilt, disgust, self-loathing, a sense of powerlessness and a feeling of “what’s the use?” Sound familiar?  [Read more...]
Posted on: August 13, 2017 by
“People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I don’t believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and, if they can’t find them, make them.” ~George Bernard Shaw I see clients every day who  [Read more...]
Posted on: May 20, 2017 by
There are many excuses that clients use to try and convince themselves that their weight gain is not their fault, that a bad eating day is not their fault, that a weight stall is not their fault, that they’re not losing weight fast enough is not their fault,that boredom with what they’re eating is  [Read more...]
Posted on: May 14, 2017 by
Josh Hoffman, a great blogger and international digital marketing strategist, recently wrote a wonderful article, The 3 Questions My Therapist Asks Himself Every Day.As I read it, I thought to myself how simple, yet thought-provoking, those threequestions were and that all of us should ask ourselves each day. In particular, I thought of  [Read more...]
Posted on: March 24, 2017 by
You’ve followed your diet faithfully, watching every morsel that passes your lips . . . and perhaps you’ve also been out there exercising every day.So why, with all the good intent, determination and motivation, now that you’re starting to see the physical results of all that hard work, have you come up against the  [Read more...]
Posted on: March 5, 2017 by
Parents and students of all ages are in countdown mode for spring break . . . and with that of course comes the anticipated family vacations. (And the end of school and summer vacations are not far behind.) Now is the time that many clients start telling me that, as much as they are  [Read more...]
Posted on: January 17, 2017 by
In my blog, Just Say “No” To Food Pushers, I wrote about the scourge of those who cannot take “No” for answer. It’s time to do so again. It seems some people relish (no pun intended) that role, and often it’s because they’re miserable in their own bodies. The holiday season, Thanksgiving through  [Read more...]
Posted on: January 10, 2017 by
Although written in 2015, I recently came upon an article by Carson Veady, The 10 Keys to Exceeding Expectations and Achieving Results.You can read it for the full narrative/context to each of these points, but each his points assures success to whatever sights we set for ourselves, including of course our weight loss goals.  [Read more...]
Posted on: January 5, 2017 by
I know it’s strange to find a “how to” article focusing on adding fat to your body. You might say that we already know how to do that—since 2/3 of Americans are overweight and 1/3 are clinically obese. You might say we’ve already mastered this topic! I want to challenge that assumption. I think  [Read more...]
Posted on: January 1, 2017 by
Anotheryear has come to a close. In our personal lives, this is the time when we reflect on the year that has just ended: The things we did, the places we went, the people we met; the good things we’ll always remember, the bad things we hope to forget; the things we are  [Read more...]
Posted on: December 3, 2016 by
There’s a word that my mother never allowed my sister and I to use at home when we were growing up, and that my husband and I didn’t allow our daughter to use either. No, it’s not the F word. I’m OK with that, depending on how it’s used. The word I’m talking about  [Read more...]
Posted on: November 27, 2016 by
I’ve met so many people over the years who have fallen into a pattern of dieting failure: One diet after another, several in a year, multiple times, and each time focused solely on their weight, almost never on their health.Obsessively focused on a daily number on a scale instead of a cumulative improvement to  [Read more...]
Posted on: October 23, 2016 by
I recently wrote about how “I don’t know” is tied with “I don’t have time” for the #1 spot on the hit parade of excuses heard regularly from weight loss clients.The #2 spot?Well, that’s definitely “I can’t.”OMG . . . I hate that freakin’ word can’t.It’s not in my vocabulary. Here’s the short  [Read more...]
Posted on: October 17, 2016 by
Tied with “I Don’t Know”in the #1 spot for excuses from weight loss clients is the old standby, “I don’t have time.” Sound familiar? I recently read a fabulous article by Robert Bacall, Do You Lie To Yourself About “Not Enough Time?”,which gets right to the heart of the matteron the true meaning  [Read more...]
Posted on: October 16, 2016 by
Aurorasa Sima is an Emotional Intelligence Trainer, business and executive coach who conducts sales training sessions, workshops, webinars and other events.In a blog, Do You Want to Search or Find, she mentioned how oftentimes after a training session someone will come up to her and say, “I knew all of that” and her response  [Read more...]
Posted on: September 24, 2016 by
Three words I hear an awful lot, daily — let’s call them some of the buzz words of weight loss — are: “I don’t know.” Some examples. Before the client gets on the scale. Me: So, how’d you do over the weekend? Client: I don’t know. When the scale shows  [Read more...]
Posted on: September 3, 2016 by
If you’re a business owner, you know that we business owners keep all kinds of records so that we can look back at various collected stats or data for evaluation:How did we do? What do we want to do differently? What worked that we want to continue? What didn’t that we want to stop  [Read more...]
Posted on: August 14, 2016 by
Let me ask you this: Have you ever really wanted something so badly and then went on toachieve(and maintain) that goal withoutanyself-imposed restrictions? Did you cut back (even just a little) on all-night partying and drinking in college when you went on to law or medical schools? Or, did the rigorous “for all  [Read more...]
Posted on: July 4, 2016 by
There’s lots ofRationalizations,ExcusesandDenial—a.k.a.bullshit—in weight loss. I hear it daily. My favorite, which I’ve already written about it, is“I’m not really that overweight; I’m big boned.”I always get a chuckle out of that one. My second favorite is a tie between “No matter what I do, I can’t seem to lose weight”  [Read more...]
Posted on: June 26, 2016 by
Pusher: “Here, try this.” Addict: “No, thanks.” Pusher: “Are you sure?” Addict: “Yes, thank you.” Pusher: “C’mon, you’re doing great on your diet; you can haveonelittle piece.” Addict: “No, really; I’m sure. Thanks.” Pusher: “Aren’t you going to have any dessert?” Addict: “No, dinner was enough; I’m full, thanks.” Pusher: “My cheesecake not  [Read more...]
Posted on: June 14, 2016 by
My daughter, Sabrina, has been horseback riding since she was 7; she’s now 20 and a college junior.A couple years ago, she had a spill off a horse at school, and was off the mount for a few months. When home on break, I decided to hang around the barn one day to watch  [Read more...]
Posted on: April 19, 2016 by
In his excellent article, Declutter Your Desk to Declutter Your Mind, Brett Berhoff wrote about the clutter-mind connection. In my line of work, I can say without question that physical clutter and chaos is directly linked to excessive weight. Clutter and excessive weight make a perfect match for each other because they  [Read more...]
Posted on: March 22, 2016 by
People are connected, and so their health is connected, said authors of their research findings a decade ago in The New England Journal of Medicine. It was the first time that prestigious journal published a study of how social networks affect health and, more specifically, how social networks play a powerful role in  [Read more...]
Posted on: February 7, 2016 by
I read a wonderful, informative article by George Armes, Over 50? 60? All’s (definitely) Not Lost! that provides one great piece of advice after another for older adults to get past the stereotypical younger recruiter across the desk to either get back into the job market or switch jobs. One of Mr. Armes’  [Read more...]
Posted on: February 1, 2016 by
I was recently asked this question, “Why is getting in the right frame of mind the key to achieving weight loss results?” Now, obviously, by starting that question with the word “why” instead of “do you think,” or “is,” this individual was (a) telling me what he thought to be a fact; and (b)  [Read more...]
Posted on: February 1, 2016 by
It would come as no surprise that one of the questions I am often asked is, “What are some of the motivational tips you provide to clients to stay motivated and focused in order to achieve their weight loss goals?” Well, of course, there are many, but the best way I can answer this  [Read more...]
Posted on: January 25, 2016 by
In weight loss, as in reaching many other goals, the key is motivation. Those who are most motivated are those who succeed. And you need to keep your level of motivation high not just at the beginning of your weight loss program, when you have decided to lose weight, but also throughout the program.  [Read more...]
Posted on: December 5, 2015 by
An article by psychotherapist and marriage counselor, Mel Schwartz, For the Sake of the Children, really struck a nerve with me. Of course, it speaks about “working” at a marriage; that’s what we commit to on our wedding day. When all working fails, however, the whole notion of “staying together for the sake  [Read more...]
Posted on: November 28, 2015 by
Over the years, in keeping in touch with many clients who have achieved and were maintaining their goal weights, I’ve come to realize a pattern: Much more had taken place in their lives than just waking up one morning a year or two or longer ago and having an epiphany that THAT was the  [Read more...]
Posted on: August 14, 2015 by
When it comes to weight loss, and also to weight maintenance, there are 3 things that we are in control of 99% of the time: the WHAT, the HOW MUCH and the WHEN we eat. During your normal, every day routines, and barring any extraordinary circumstances of course, you must plan your  [Read more...]
Posted on: August 10, 2015 by
With perhaps the one exception of “cheating” death, the word “cheat” can just never be used in a positive way. Cheating on your spouse isn’t good. Cheating on your business partner isn’t good. Cheating on your taxes isn’t good. Cheating a customer by padding your bill isn’t good. Cheating on an exam isn’t  [Read more...]