Published on October 11, 2022
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An easy way to feel bad about yourself is to compare yourself unfavorably to others.
When we wish to look, be, or have like others—either in our personal lives or professional careers—we’re not really wishing for everything about that person, but only the idealized aspects, the things we see through rose-colored glasses.
It’s why so often when people spend some length of time with their “heroes,” “heroines,” “role models,” or “idols,” they discover that those same people also have weaknesses, flaws, difficulties and problems just like everyone else.
It’s OK to admire someone, but don’t compare yourself to anyone. Because no matter WHAT of someone else’s you may be comparing yourself to (their business success, their relationships success, their weight loss or fitness success, etc.):
Comparison leads to frustration.
Frustration leads to loss of motivation.
. . . which leads to feelings of negativity towards yourself
. . . which leads to self-sabotage
. . . which leads to never feeling good enough
. . . which leads to taking your frustration out on others
. . . which leads to real issues remaining unresolved
. . . which leads to, yet again, back to where you started.
Life isn’t a competition. It’s a journey we’re all on to find, to become, to learn, to change, to create. That journey has nothing to do with how well 𝙤𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙨 are doing, or what 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙮 have. It has everything to do with what 𝐲𝐨𝐮 want to do, and where 𝐲𝐨𝐮 want to go. That’s all you need to worry about.
Focusing on the negatives is rarely as helpful as focusing on the positives but remember: Nobody is perfect or living a painless life.
Triumph requires an obstacle to be overcome. And everybody is suffering through their own, whether you are close enough to know it or not.