Published on June 14, 2023
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An easy way to feel bad about yourself is to compare yourself unfavorably to others.
When we wish to look, be, or have like others—either in our personal lives or professional careers—we’re not really wishing for everything about that person, but only the idealized aspects, the things we see through rose-colored glasses.
It’s why so often when people spend some length of time with their “heroes,” “heroines,” “role models,” or “idols,” they discover that those same people also have weaknesses, flaws, difficulties, and problems just like everyone else.
It’s OK to admire someone, but don’t compare yourself to anyone.
Life isn’t a competition. It’s a journey we’re all on to find, to become, to learn, to change, to create. That journey has nothing to do with how well 𝙤𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙨 are doing, or what 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙮 have. It has everything to do with what 𝐲𝐨𝐮 want to do, and where 𝐲𝐨𝐮 want to go. That’s all you need to worry about.
A comparison mindset
(my life, my weight, my career, my business, my relationships, my marriage . . . would be perfect if I was like ).
leads to
Setting unrealistic goals
which leads to
Loss of motivation
Feelings of negativity towards yourself
Self-sabotage
Never feeling good enough
Taking your frustration out on others
Real issues remaining unresolved
which leads you
Back to where you started.
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Focusing on the negatives is rarely as helpful as focusing on the positives and remember: Nobody is perfect or living a painless life.
Triumph requires an obstacle to be overcome. And everybody is suffering through their own, whether you are close enough to know it or not.
