Published on January 1, 2022
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A blog by Luke Iorio, Want To Stay Unhappy? Keep Doing These 5 Things, struck me with one of those “aha” moments. Every one of his five points on how to stay unhappy, as relates to personal and professional development, is applicable to my business and to the clients we see every day. He listed five unproductive behaviors and gave tips to assist in letting go of them. I’m going to use those same five unproductive behaviors as relates to weight loss.
Too often a client will withhold telling a spouse how much it bothers them when they bring home trigger foods they’re trying desperately to avoid. Whether out of fear of starting an argument, or not wanting to ask for support (again . . . because they’ve tried so often in the past and their spouse doesn’t even believe their current attempt is legit), a client will, instead, keep their feelings to themselves and just try to ‘tough it’ out. Unfortunately, this often leads to difficult and stressful times at home.
Obesity thrives in social circles. Too often, a clients’ best friends . . . aren’t. Unfortunately, with ‘serial dieters’ especially, their fat friends do expect them to fail again and don’t go out of their way to support them. They’ll entice them with invitations to the very restaurants or food establishments that a client must stay away from, for example. Or, fat friends will have no healthy offerings at their home when inviting a client over. They expect them to eat as they do when in their homes.
Similarly, the same spouse or partner who brings the triggers home, is just as unsympathetic and uncooperative when dining out. (A) They expect the number of times they dine out will not change; and (B) that the usual ‘trigger’ eating establishments—their favorites—won’t change either.
In my world, almost everyone I meet has lived a lifetime of superficial quick-fixes and sometimes dangerous diets. In their minds, they’re victims. They perpetually play the “no matter what I try nothing works, nothing changes” card when, in fact, they don’t want do ‘the work’ of long-term change.
There are those clients who are (in their minds) just always right. For example, “I know my body and I can’t get below 175 lbs” says the client who is 240 pounds and needs to be 140. They can’t ever answer the questions: How is it that your body won’t let you get below a certain number but WILL allow you to get as high as 240 and beyond? So, in other words, your low is finite, but your high is from here to infinity and beyond?
Many overweight and obese people perpetually hang on not only to the bad habits that got them overweight or obese but the ‘bad’ influences within their social circles as well. They opt to be stuck in the comfortableness of the known. They fear the unknown: Can they learn new habits and sustain them? Can they make new friends who will inspire and support them?
As Luke writes in his blog, everyone becomes stuck once in a while, change is hard and it doesn’t happen all at once. If you’re fat and unhappy, just continue the unproductive behavior that got you there. But, if you want to make the dietary and lifestyle changes that will result in healthy, consistent weight loss so you can be slim and happy, here are the five productive behaviors you have to adopt.
The moral of the story is this:
You have to give up unproductive behaviors for productive behaviors to work.
Productive behaviors result in positive results!