Category: Emotional

  If you’re a business owner, you know that we business owners keep all kinds of records so that we can look back at various collected stats or data for evaluation: How did we do? What do we want to do differently? What worked that we want to continue? What didn’t that we want to stop  [Read more...]

When an overweight person is complaining that they feel fat, what is an appropriate and helpful response (vs. just saying “no, you’re not!”)? Some people think that it’s always 100% wrong to ever admit anyone is fat and have a confused notion that to ever agree with anyone that they are overweight is  [Read more...]

Be honest: Would you be friends with someone who constantly told you how fat you looked? Probably not for very long. Would you tolerate a friend who constantly berates you, who never misses an opportunity to tell you you’re hopeless and weak and that you’ll never lose weight? I doubt it.  [Read more...]

Boy, how many times have I heard that from a client?! The typical emotional over-eater feels helpless and frustrated because of his/her history of failure at weight management. They feel as if they can’t stop themselves from over-eating, despite knowing it’s self-destructive. They often feel like their right hand is stuffing food into  [Read more...]

So often, especially on a Monday morning, or if I haven’t seen a client for longer than usual, upon entering my office and before they get on the scale, they will pronounce, “You’re going to be angry with me” or “Don’t be angry with me.” As you can surmise, and as I instantly know  [Read more...]

So many people say they don’t have the discipline to make big changes in their lives and, as you can imagine, I meet new clients all the time who tell me they don’t have the “will”power to stick to new lifestyle changes. From hands-on experience with clients over 20 years, what I’ve learned  [Read more...]

Are you someone who, like millions of other people, suffers with a daily internal struggle with weight and eating? Have you tried all the diets—the packages, the powders, the liquids, the pills, the grapefruits, the celebrity-sponsored miracle plans, the hypnosis, the balls behind the ear, the no carbs, and on and on . .  [Read more...]

Being overweight is not just an external (appearance) issue. Being overweight is an internal (health) issue. Every overweight person I meet who doesn’t have any diagnosed medical issues and isn’t taking any prescribed medications thinks they’re “healthy.” They’re not. Excess visceral fat is not the foundationofor the companiontogood health. Can you be  [Read more...]

“Eat everything in moderation.”    We hear this advice a lot from diet/lifestyle gurus, fitness professionals and physicians. It’s a common expression as relates to the indulgence (or over-indulgence) of food or drink — the so-called occasional “pig-out” or “going off the wagon.”   I get asked my opinion on this quite a bit  [Read more...]

We know for a fact that generating a daily food plan (or, weekly plan) is crucial for healthy and consistent weight loss. As the saying goes, if you fail to plan, you plan to fail. You have to know, in advance, what your intentions are for the next day (or more). Based on  [Read more...]

As happens quite often, I recently read a great article, Hey Sales Reps: Stop Chasing Shiny Objects and Get to Work! by Larry Levine, sales guru, trainer and coach. Anyway, his article was about how sales organizations are focusing too much on the “shiny new thing” — “social selling” (encouraging sales reps to establish  [Read more...]

Many people who are overweight or obese suffer with depression. Of those, for many who suffer from even mild depression, the extra burden of being overweight during the year-end holiday season only makes things worse. As I wrote in another article, in my experiences with clients,the larger one gets the smaller their world  [Read more...]

Last week, a 17-year old client who lives 10 minutes away and had a 9:00 a.m. appointment, called the office at 9:05 to say there was a big car accident one block up (on a well-traveled road) from my office, and that’s why he was running late but that he’d be there shortly. About  [Read more...]

“People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I don’t believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and, if they can’t find them, make them.” ~George Bernard Shaw I see clients every day who  [Read more...]

There are many excuses that clients use to try and convince themselves that their weight gain is not their fault, that a bad eating day is not their fault, that a weight stall is not their fault, that they’re not losing weight fast enough is not their fault, that boredom with what they’re eating is  [Read more...]

As often happens on LinkedIn, someone’s great post inspires one of my own. A recent post by Luke Iorio, Want To Stay Unhappy? Keep Doing These 5 Things, struck me with one of those “aha” moments. Every one of his five points on how to stay unhappy, as relates to personal and professional development,  [Read more...]

I often shake my head when new clients recite a long list of diets they’ve tried in the past, ranging from the ridiculous to the downright dangerous. My response is always the same:I tell them I can teach them everything I know, but I can’t go home with them, I can’t shop for their  [Read more...]

Too many people think weight is a food problem. It’s not. Weight is also not a physical problem. The fact is that our bodies will react to what our minds are thinking. Weight gain (or loss) has more to do with what’s going on between our ears than anything  [Read more...]

We all hear this saying a lot, and perhaps others of us say it a lot.Either way, it’s a common expression most often used as relates to the indulgence (or over-indulgence) of food or drink. The so-called “occasional pig-out” or “going off the wagon.” Needless to say, I get asked my opinion on  [Read more...]

You are NOT hungry most of the time. You are not hungry because something smells good, looks good, or tastes good. You are also not hungry because there is stress, a deadline, a personal or business problem, anxiety, tension, it’s morning, afternoon, evening, when alone, with thinner friends, with fatter friends, weekdays, weekends, day  [Read more...]

Aurorasa Sima is an Emotional Intelligence Trainer, business and executive coach who conducts sales training sessions, workshops, webinars and other events.In a blog, Do You Want to Search or Find, she mentioned how oftentimes after a training session someone will come up to her and say, “I knew all of that” and her response  [Read more...]

I recently read a very good post on the professional social network, LinkedIn, by Mareo McCracken, This is Why You Are Sabotaging Relationships (+8 Actionable Ideas to Build Incredible Ones). It was on the subject of sabotaging relationships when it comes to success (or failure) in business. It stood out for me because of two words: SABOTAGING and RELATIONSHIPS.    [Read more...]

In his excellent article, Declutter Your Desk to Declutter Your Mind, Brett Berhoff wrote about the clutter-mind connection. In my line of work, I can say without question that physical clutter and chaos is directly linked to excessive weight. Clutter and excessive weight make a perfect match for each other because they  [Read more...]